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I get this question SO much.
Ladies constantly ask me did God tell me and Jonathan individually that we were the one for each other. I honestly can’t say that God definitively told us that we were the one for each other, but he did give us the power of choice, and we can both say hands down we made the absolute best choice in choosing each other.
I can’t tell you that God won’t tell you who your mate is, but I will tell you that he doesn’t HAVE to.
The key to avoiding distractions in relationships is not becoming so enamored by superficial things that you overlook the things that matter the most.
Just think, milk is still beautifully white whether it’s spoiled or not. At first glance it may not look spoiled, but you take one whiff of spoiled milk and you wouldn’t dare want to drink it.
Some of you have sniffed out ungodly characteristics in your prospective mate.
You’ve noticed things like his lack of character, his lack of pursuit, irresponsibility, despondency to the things of God, etc just to name a few.
Do. Not. Overlook those things. God is giving you a small peak into your future.
With that in mind, you don’t have to ask the Lord a question about a prospective mate that he has already clearly shown you by his fruit disqualifications. I’m reminded of the saying in Matthew 7:16 “You will recognize them by their fruit.”
And why again would you ask God if that man is the one for you, while the fruit on his tree is clearly rotten? It doesn’t matter what he’s saying, you need to check that fruit. Always remember, things don’t go wrong, they start wrong.
If you’re feeling restless, confused, or pressured to make a decision, then step back a bit.
Let me give you a few scenarios where you may need to just….chill.
If you find yourself thinking or saying to yourself the following, I strongly advise you step back:
“God told me, but he hasn’t told him yet”
Sis, save yourself heartache and tears . I’ve seen women distraught as they believed that God told them that they would marry a certain man, only for that man to not know anything about them or even be mildly interested.
Remember this, God is not “a God of confusion” (1 Cor. 14:33)
◊Helping Note: Dear Sis, if God can speak to you about him, then God can speak to him about you. Chill.
“I saw my husband in a dream”
Hmmm, have you ever had a crazy dream before? All dreams are not prophetic.
I repeat, just because you dreamed it doesn’t mean that you dreamed God’s will for you. You may have to chalk it up to a meal you ate before you went to sleep, but don’t wake up and start planning your wedding with this guy just because of a dream.
♥ Enjoy life.
♥ Stop stressing.
♥ Stop worrying.
Here are a few things that you can do to ensure that you are staying sober in choosing a mate.
Stay in God’s presence!
◊ Helping Note: Dear Sis, the more you run towards God, the more the imposters will run away from you.
Some men can generally be weeded out just by your pursuit of God. A counterfeit will get tired of pretending to love God. He will get tired of you raving.
Speak this over yourself: I will be and I will have everything that God has purposed for my life according to Jeremiah 29:11.
Now seriously, rest.
Rest in knowing that if God wants you to be married, then trust that you will be. Stop wondering what’s taking so long and stop worrying if you have missed God.
Rest in the assurance that you are right in the place that God wants you to be. Your steps are ordered. God’s got you! KNOW that.
This is important so you won’t have a side, secret relationship that nobody knows about but you two! You need proven, Godly people in your life that can say, “Yes, he’s on the right track or Girl, no! What are you thinking? He does what? He says what? And be sure that those you are accountable to are emotionally healthy. You don’t want someone spewing bad advice to you.
These are just a few! For all of you ladies reading this, I pray that God absolutely blows your mind this week! Thank you all so much for your continued support of the blog! I appreciate all of the shares on social media and comments on the blog. Bonus: I’ve included a bonus chapter in the book since it was a few days late, I hope you enjoy!
Remember, the subject of the blog is changing for the next upcoming blogs, and I can’t wait to share with you what God has placed on my heart.
Do. Not. Settle
Love you so much,
Wife. Mother. Author.