christan – Amanda Ferguson

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Remember this, God will bless you to the level of your preparation.

Do you just want to be married? Or do you want to be a wife?

Wives are the keepers of their homes, the protector of their atmospheres, and the glue that holds the family together. Here are a few practical things to cultivate as you prepare to be a Godly wife.

1. Learn How to Cook

Ok, I know we’re in the age where dining out and getting take out is convenient, but let me tell you something ladies, a way to a man’s heart is still through his stomach.

A man loves a good home-cooked meal. Before, I was 22, I couldn’t boil water. Seriously, I didn’t know anything about the kitchen. I had no interest in cooking, but when I got saved at 22, something shifted in me.

I suddenly had the desire to improve myself as a lady in every aspect of my life. I asked my mom and other great cooks to show me a few meals. I also googled recipes and got a ton of ideas. Sometimes they were great, and sometimes they were terrible, but I kept improving!

By the time I got married 4 years later, I was a really good cook. My husband thinks I’m an amazing cook, and he is a very picky eater. If you’re not the best cook, it’s okay. Spend a little time each week working on a new dish. Once you’ve mastered that dish, move on to the next one. Before you know it, you’ll have a reservoir of good meals that you’ve mastered. Your future husband will thank you.

2. Clean it Up

If you’re at home right now, take a look around your house. Is it messy? Is it organized? Do you have clothes every year? Piles of dishes in the sink?

◊ Helping Note: Dear sis, you can’t be deep in the spirit and dirty at home. Clean it up.

Cleanliness is next to godliness. Your home is your atmosphere. Keep it clean, keep it inviting, keep it organized. Men appreciate a clean house. Oh, and a clean bathroom.

That’s right, they don’t want to see your eyeshadow, lashes, brushes, and combs all over the bathroom counter. That may mean, you might have to leave home a little earlier to tidy up before you head out each day. Contrary to what you may think, the cleanliness that you develop NOW is how you will be as a wife. If cleaning hasn’t become a habit now, then you will struggle greatly when you get married.

So, I learned to try my best to put things back as soon as I use it. I’ve found that if I don’t, things will just start building up. Then when it was time to clean up everything, I’d get overwhelmed.

I remember once spending TWO HOURS cleaning out drawers just because I would throw my clothes in drawers and didn’t know where anything was….. TWO hours! From that point, I decided that I needed a change. I needed to be organized and stay organized so I wouldn’t have to constantly start from scratch.

Practical Habits to Enforce

* When trying on clothes, if you don’t wear that outfit, don’t put it on the floor or bed, hang it back up

* When you take off your shoes, don’t just put them somewhere, put them in their place

* When you cook, fill the sink with dish water, so you can wash dishes as you go

* When you check the mail, immediately discard things you don’t need so that miscellaneous papers won’t crowd your home

* When you apply your makeup, place all makeup, tools, etc. back into there proper place.

Those are only a few tips. Remember, when you really value something, you MAINTAIN it.

3. Work on Your Appearance

While women are moved by their emotions, men are moved by what they see. They are visual beings.

This is why it’s important to look your best and “keep yourself up”. That doesn’t mean that you have to look like a model, but that means that everyday you should look your best.

It’s perfectly alright to spend extra time making sure that you look great from head to toe. This means you can NOT wear a bonnet, scarf, and pajamas to the store because you need to “run to the store really quickly.” I feel like I just stepped on a few toes just then. It’s okay to say ouch. Remember, house shoes are for the HOUSE.

◊ Helping Note: Dear Sis, you can be holy and not look homely.

I know you may be enjoying this, but I’m going to stop here for now. I’ll continue my teaching on appearance along with the other two tips in my next blog.

This year, Do Not settle.

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Love you so much,

Amanda Ferguson

Have you been wondering why that special man in your life just will NOT pop the question? Let me give you 3 reasons that may be the culprit. 🙂

1. He’s Pressured

Have you ever been to a store and didn’t want to be bothered? You only wanted to browse for a bit, but the sales associate wouldn’t leave you alone?

Well I don’t do well in those atmospheres. Ask me once , ask me twice, then … poof be gone! If I keep being pressured to buy, I leave! See. When you see something you want you don’t have to be convinced to get it. If he really wants you, you don’t have to convince him to be with you.

◊Helping Note: Dear Sis, If you have to convince him to be with you, then you’ll have to convince him to stay with you.

2. He’s Too Comfy

Ever heard the saying, “Why buy the cow when the milk is free? Well guess what….he is enjoying that free milk. He is enjoying all of the benefits OF you without formally committing TO marrying you.

So yes, that’s why he can date you for years and years without ever going to pick out a ring. He is quite comfy.

I’ve heard women say, “I’ll wait on him as long as I need to.” That’s fine if that’s what you’d like to do. I’m definitely not trying to discourage your waiting process, but I don’t want you heartbroken if that never happens.

◊Helping Note: When a man deems you as irreplaceable, he will want to get you off the market as soon as possible as his wife!

It’s absolutely possible for a man to string you along for years with no intentions on marrying you.

My husband and I only dated for 2.5 months and after a month of dating, we were picking out rings. I’m not saying that has to be your timeline, but generally speaking, a man, especially a Christian man, won’t keep you waiting long.

Don’t fall for the okey-dokey.

3. He Doesn’t Want To

I don’t think I can be any more candid than this;

Sis, he hasn’t married you because…well he doesn’t want to.

I know you’ve met his mama, grandma, his best friends and his dog.

You’ve cooked for him and worked on yourself to make yourself better.

You’ve told all of your friends about all that he has done for you.

And guess what?

If he doesn’t want to marry you, he won’t.

Some men honestly like the thrill of having a “forever” girlfriend, believing that it validates their “man” card.

◊Helping Note: Dear Sis, when a man decides that he wants to marry you, he will move heaven and earth to wed you.

I’m telling you these three tips because I love you.

In 2017, be free from the illusion that makes you think that he will eventually marry you.

God has someone so so special for you.

The one that God has ordained for you will be a breathtaking reflection of God’s love for you. He will love the core you. He will love the depth of you. He will make you realize why it never worked with anyone else. He will be worth the wait , and he won’t make you wait long:)

This year, Do Not settle.

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