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Up until 7 pm last night, I had no idea that I would be writing this post. Then like a ton of bricks, God deposited this title into me, and the content began to flow.
I don’t know who all needs to read this blog, but I felt God’s heart and I believe that MANY need this.
This blog is for the woman that only wanted to be PRAYED for, yet got PREYED on by a preacher.
This one will be raw, real, and uncut.
“I’m still the man of God”
That’s what he says to you after you all’s sexual frenzies in attempt to make you not “call him out“ on his sin.
He has no conviction and no desire to change so he wants to convince you never to cross him or try to expose him. He will tell you scriptures about how David committed sin, but was still a man after God’s own heart.
This is a manipulative tactic to cause you to avoid the seduction of what’s taking place between the two of you. As long as you see it as innocent you will be blindsided to the patterns that play out every single time you are chosen out of his group of women to be his mistress for the night.
That reminds me of my oldest girls, Hannah and Mya. When they are arguing and fussing the other one always tells me what the other one did wrong to try to take the blame away.
My question as I look to them individually is “But what did YOU do wrong”.
A man who won’t take responsibility for his actions is a man who still wants to hide in the dark. He is enjoying his lifestyle of sin. You aren’t responsible for his actions, but you are responsible for yours.
Be delivered from the voices that taunt you saying “Well if God uses him so powerfully, his passion must not be wrong”. Honey, God also used a donkey in the Bible, remember? God can use whatever and whomever he uses but that doesn’t mean that YOU have to subject yourself to living a life beneath what God wants for you.
It’s not okay. It’s never been okay and will never be okay. He is quite comfortable in his lifestyle of sin.
“I’m a man…I make mistakes too”
That’s what he says to you when he can’t manipulate you with his charisma or God given gift.
The only problem with this is that these sexual encounters you’re having with him are nowhere near mistakes. Neither are the ones he’s having with all the other women in other cities while you’re at home still believing that he will soon acknowledge that you’re his God sent wife.
It’s one thing to be a man that makes mistakes, but it’s a completely different thing for his mistakes to be a lifestyle.
Remember this, Mistakes are not premeditated and neither are they pre-planned.
Be honest with yourself when you know something doesn’t feel right.
You know when you’re being violated.
From him you may experience feelings of being seduced, being manipulated, or just being downright uncomfortable.
NONE of those are attributes of the Holy Spirit.
And then…some of you are okay.
You’re okay with being the side piece. You’re okay with flying into a city where he is, getting to wear your best “First Lady” attire at church, and sitting on the front row.
You feel special because his “crew” knows all about you. They also know what’s going down after the church service…and you do too.
Until you have read this post you have been okay with that. Although he has treated you like a KFC meal only wanting your breasts, legs, and thighs.
You. Have. Settled. For. That.
Because deep down you either only want the sex too, or you believe that he has intentions on marrying so you’re just waiting around to see what will happen.
You sit in his church services and look around to see if any other woman is looking at him with “those eyes”…you notice a few, but you shake it off because you know that you’re the one he wants to be with…or at least you’re the one who will be in his hotel room that night.
In your mind, if you can’t have all of him, at least you will have part of him.
But as I’m writing this, the Holy Spirit has arrested you because God loves you so much.
I’m writing this to you because I love you so much and I’m tired of seeing you hurt and confused.
Be delivered from the delusion that’s driving your decisions.
You don’t have to make any announcements, ultimatums, or threats… just decide that you won’t partake in this anymore.
You are worth so much more.
◊ Helping Note: Dear Sis, know your worth. You are the apple of the Father’s eye.
♥ You deserve a man who will not only be faithful to you, but will be faithful to God.
♥ You deserve a man who will wed you.
♥ You deserve a man who will be do things the right way.
♥ You deserve the absolute best.
Remember this, things don’t go wrong, they start wrong.
Change your number, block him on social media, and, if need be, don’t go to his church services. There are lots of other churches and services where you can be spiritually fed.
Guard your heart, honey. In order to be free, you have to want to be free and take the ACTIONS to be free.
So , I’m praying hard for you.
Do. Not. Settle
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Love you so much,
Wife. Mother. Author.