Have you been wondering why that special man in your life just will NOT pop the question? Let me give you 3 reasons that may be the culprit. 🙂
1. He’s Pressured
Have you ever been to a store and didn’t want to be bothered? You only wanted to browse for a bit, but the sales associate wouldn’t leave you alone?
Well I don’t do well in those atmospheres. Ask me once , ask me twice, then … poof be gone! If I keep being pressured to buy, I leave! See. When you see something you want you don’t have to be convinced to get it. If he really wants you, you don’t have to convince him to be with you.
◊Helping Note: Dear Sis, If you have to convince him to be with you, then you’ll have to convince him to stay with you.
2. He’s Too Comfy
Ever heard the saying, “Why buy the cow when the milk is free? Well guess what….he is enjoying that free milk. He is enjoying all of the benefits OF you without formally committing TO marrying you.
So yes, that’s why he can date you for years and years without ever going to pick out a ring. He is quite comfy.
I’ve heard women say, “I’ll wait on him as long as I need to.” That’s fine if that’s what you’d like to do. I’m definitely not trying to discourage your waiting process, but I don’t want you heartbroken if that never happens.
◊Helping Note: When a man deems you as irreplaceable, he will want to get you off the market as soon as possible as his wife!
It’s absolutely possible for a man to string you along for years with no intentions on marrying you.
My husband and I only dated for 2.5 months and after a month of dating, we were picking out rings. I’m not saying that has to be your timeline, but generally speaking, a man, especially a Christian man, won’t keep you waiting long.
Don’t fall for the okey-dokey.
3. He Doesn’t Want To
I don’t think I can be any more candid than this;
Sis, he hasn’t married you because…well he doesn’t want to.
I know you’ve met his mama, grandma, his best friends and his dog.
You’ve cooked for him and worked on yourself to make yourself better.
You’ve told all of your friends about all that he has done for you.
And guess what?
If he doesn’t want to marry you, he won’t.
Some men honestly like the thrill of having a “forever” girlfriend, believing that it validates their “man” card.
◊Helping Note: Dear Sis, when a man decides that he wants to marry you, he will move heaven and earth to wed you.
I’m telling you these three tips because I love you.
In 2017, be free from the illusion that makes you think that he will eventually marry you.
God has someone so so special for you.
The one that God has ordained for you will be a breathtaking reflection of God’s love for you. He will love the core you. He will love the depth of you. He will make you realize why it never worked with anyone else. He will be worth the wait , and he won’t make you wait long:)
This year, Do Not settle.
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Love you so much,
Amanda Ferguson
Amanda Ferguson 