5 Ways I KNEW My Husband Was The One For Me PT.1



Picture from my modeling shoot


Did God tell you He was the one?

How did you KNOW he was the one?

Listen, sis, don’t be too deep as it relates to dating. I hear so many ladies saying “I’m just waiting on God to speak to me concerning this guy”……Hmmmmm let me make it plain: When you are hungry, do you consult God about whether to eat or not? Absolutely not. He made us with a “sensor” to let us know when we are hungry, and it’s time to eat.

God gives us the gift of the Holy Spirit to help lead us and guide us, yet He is not going to lead us in the particular areas that we ignore the wisdom that He has already given us. Ok, so the guy you are dating has no passion & faithfulness for God, no character, no accountability, etc…yet , you’re waiting on God to speak to you and say “yay or nay” concerning that guy…Umph.

Move on, sis. God has so much more in store for you.

I can’t say that I had this “Ah Ha” moment where God spoke to me that Jonathan was my husband. However I did pay attention to EVERYTHING and we mutually made the decision that we were the best fit for each other. Without a doubt, we can both say that we made the best decision! I couldn’t imagine being married to a more perfect man for me (not perfect, just perfect for me) And vice versa, I’m his perfect fit.

After salvation, who you will marry is the single most important decision that you will ever make in your life. CHOOSE WISELY.

This is not a special formula but these are 5 ways that I KNEW that my husband was the one for me. I will be giving you three of five ways in this blog, and the remainder in a second blog featuring part two of this subject:

1.He loved God in words and deeds.

When I met Jonathan, he was currently on a 40 day liquid fast…whew! That’s real dedication! Jonathan was and is a man after God’s own heart. Fasting and his prayer life was and is an intricate part of who he was. He didn’t just talk about God, he LIVED for God and still does to this day.

The first things that stood out to me about him is how his love for God superseded everything else in his life. He wasn’t ashamed to lift his hands in worship and bow his knees in prayer in outward adoration of the Father. He didn’t mind crying out to God…His heart was so tender towards the Father. I immediately noticed that he was a man who wholeheartedly was striving to live the life that was pleasing to God

◊Helping tip: A man who doesn’t want to break God’s heart, won’t want to break yours.

Throughout the course of our 3 year friendship, before we wed, his fasting, prayer, and devotional life was still consistent. He didn’t waiver in his pursuit of God. I knew that I could follow and submit to a man like that.


2. He only wanted me

This may sound like a no brainer, but it’s not. I see women settling all of the time for a guy who likes her, but doesn’t want ONLY HER. Honey, don’t settle for being the SIDE chick OR the MAIN one, be the ONLY one.

◊Helping tip: Don’t make someone a priority, when you’re only an option.

There was a season where we were considering dating that my husband was torn in between me and another young lady, and he told me. I cried, got upset, and then I realized my worth…So what did I do? I changed my number, deleted all text threads, pictures, and blocked him on social media. Why? Because I was serious about my heart AND about my worth.

◊Helping Tip: Just because a guy doesn’t see your worth does not diminish your value

He called me back and got that special message when your number is changed. I was THAT seriousMy heart was serious-My time was serious-My intent was serious.

AND I WASN’T DOING IT TO GET HIS ATTENTION OR GIVE HIM AN ULTIMATUM. He made his decision so I simply made mine.

◊Helping Tip: Never give a man an ultimatum. Simply decide what you will and will not allow.

We reconnected a few months later and this time he knew I was the one for him. No gimmicks, no games, no questioning. We dated for 2.5 months, engaged for 1.5 months, and then married! March 2016 will make 4 years of marriage! No one was pregnant, we were not in a rush…we just decided to cut all the games out. After all, we had spent almost three years already becoming the best of friends and getting to know each other.


3.He was accountable.

When we started dating, after telling his father, he told other proven Godly men in our lives that we were serious about getting married. He put himself in a position to be accountable to these men concerning his life and his intentions towards me.

◊Helping Tip: Men know men. Give the men in your life access to the one you are dating.

It’s easy for women to overlook certain things when you’re “in love” but don’t take this for granted.I know this is getting good, but I will stop here. I will elaborate more on this point of accountability and the remainder of the points on part 2 of this blog so stay tuned. . . . . . . .

birthday dinner

♥♥Us headed to my 30th birthday dinner last week!♥♥

For additional tips on relationships, recipes, fashion tips, and more, check out my devotional for single ladies at this link ! #conqueringthecrossroads 


142 thoughts on “5 Ways I KNEW My Husband Was The One For Me PT.1

  1. Your family is so sweet and funny. Thanks for sharing with us. I’ve been married for 10.5 years. We have 4 little ones, and this blog blessed me. Keep going forward in God!


  2. Amazing blog! Thank you so much for sharing. Your periscopes have really blessed me and I look forward to your future blog posts!

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  3. Praise God! This spoke to me. I loved it. Keep writing and inspiring us, woman of God. I also loved the scope btw, prophet eating all the salmon dip and chips himself! Marriage is not only friendship BUT sharing! Come on, Prophet! Lol I thank God for ya’ll and cover ya’ll in the Blood of Jesus in daily prayer ♡

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  4. Excellent blog. You are helping so many women old and young how to be and live a Godly life. i also watch you on periscope and your light shines bright. you and your husband are such beautiful examples of what God can do when you give yourself completey to him. sincerley, Desiree

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  5. Thanks Amanda for these great points!! This is advise that I plan to follow when I start dating. Thanks for being an awesome big sis. Your scopes, and now your blog, are helping me to begin seeing and treating myself as a Godly lady of value and not to settle for whatever comes my way. God bless you!! I look forward to your next blog post! 🙂


  6. Wow I bless God for you lovely woman of God. I been married since 96 to my late husband (rip ) and now to another for 10 years. I’m in my 40s and this blog has blessed me loads.
    Especially the tips. That one of ” a man who doesn’t want to break God’s heart won’t want to break yours’. This is a good thing I will use speaking to my 15 year old daughter and ladies in church.
    I love you Amanda and the prophet. You are truly a prefect fit for each other.
    Bless you and praying for you.
    Mrs Sullivan

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  8. Thank you soo much Woman of God. Those are some real deal tips right there. I pray you and your husband keep living under an open heaven where blessings don’t ever stop flowin! Keep receiving from God to keep blessing us. With much love Zindia

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    1. Plus. I LOVE y’all’s outfits for your 30th Birthday Dinner!! You are the highest woman of God that I look up too. Love you!! Bless You!!!🙏Praying for you always, everyday. And I really mean that too💗. Zindia


  9. Good info!! What a lovely couple 👫. I’ve been married 💑 to my husband for some years now. We have 3 beautiful children. Today I’m still in love ❤ with. I often thank God for my Boaz😊.
    God Bless

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  10. These principles have to be passed on to our daughters. So many times mother’s wait until that daughter is already deeply involved with the wrong man then tell her that the man is no good for her. If there is one thing I have learned it is to never compromise on what you will and will not tolerate. This is an awesome word of wisdom that is much needed in our society! Thanks!

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  11. As a single Christian woman in her early 30’s, who still believes in Godly courtships and maintaining standards, I cannot tell you how elated I am to read your blog. It is encouraging to know that there are redeemed women of God who do not conform to worldly trends of dating and exemplify poise and grace in relationships with the opposite sex. Your story gives me tremendous hope that in holding out for Mr. Just Right for Me, that the wait and preparation would not have only been well worth it, but that my story will compel other women (young and old) to have unwavering faith in their single journey while waiting for their future spouse. May God bless you and your family immensely! Looking forward to #4-#5 😉


  12. Oh, My sister. I was really encouraged by this story. We, as women settle in so many ways and don’t follow our intuition. I’m so excited to hear the remainder of this story.

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  13. You and your husband have been such a blessing to me. I’m so thankful to God and the prophet for the spiritual connection. I’m excited about your future.

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  14. Blessings daughter Amanda, I just saw your Periscope talking about this blog and came by to check-it-out, daughter, what a blessing you are, I am 46/64 lol met my husband while in the midst of divorce( I do value myself and respect myself and will not allow you to disrespect me), 6 months after merting, we got married, currently married 1 1/2 year and seeking the perfect will of God in our marriage…I started a Sev7n Minute Read of the book, Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian, so my dear, me the older and you the younger on a mandate to secure and save marraige 🙂 you pray for me as I am daily praying for you and Prophet Ferguson…love you daughter of Zion.

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  15. You will reach many women with this word! This has truly touched my heart and has made me reevaluate my relationship! Thank you WOG for your awesome MINISTRY! This word will DEFINITELY change my life!

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  16. You are a beautiful woman! And I love the spirit of God in you and on you! Let God bless your family! Keep up the good work.

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